Confidence: A Valuable Trait

by Dec 19, 2019Adventures, Mental Health

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Over the last year with the tragedy I’ve suffered through, I’d like to think I’ve grown. Growth hurts like hell, but being open about it has helped tremendously. Confidence is a part of that growth. I’ve been pretty comfortable with who I am as a person. However, I was blessed to learn some things that needed to be changed or improved on, like weaknesses and trauma-based habits. 

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to tknow the difference.

As I was scrolling thru my fitness-based Instagram feed, I saw Influencers and fit models who recently had children of their own. In these pictures, they wore sports bras and workout shorts. They had abs popping out and long, lean legs. I felt so depressed because having a passion for fitness made me feel like I wasn’t doing enough. I would never get to where I wanted to be in life. I felt fat and unattractive even. 

I know that there are plenty of women, mothers especially, that feel the same. The snap-back hasn’t happened and there are plenty of stretchmarks to wrap a small planet in. You may not have time to focus on yourself because others demand so much of you now.

When I planned my trip to Texas, I felt the need to do something different. I wanted to step outside of my comfort zone. I wanted women to accept their new bodies.

I don’t want you to give up on yourself. I want you to accept those beautiful stretch marks, the drop in your breasts or the extra love around your hips and keep pushing forward. I want you to know that as long as you keep a positive mindset you will get your snap-back even if it takes a year, two or three years from now. Love yourself. 

Someone reminded me that I had my son almost a year ago and I can’t use pregnancy as an excuse anymore. I most certainly can! My body has changed. My metabolism isn’t the same. My skin is definitely stretched out. King was a big baby while I’m a small body. And most importantly, I breastfed two greedy (Oops, I meant growing) boys for as long as I could. I have mom boobs. And don’t forget the FUPA. 

Point is, I love me! Even though I kept repeating to myself that I was naked and my boobs were saggy during the photo shoot, I had the confidence to show it all. This isn’t exactly a Lizzo type moment. It is a moment to show you that snap-backs don’t always happen overnight. I encourage you to love you. Be brave, be positive, be confident!


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Photos by CandidCantuPhotography

Makeup by Shay Martin

Major Support by Indigo

Accessories: Lovisa and Forever 21.

Bodysuits: Forever 21

Sports Bra and Leggings: Old Navy



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